Living Will Isn't So Living Is It?

Am I bad person not to fly out for my mother's surgery? I don't really have the money, and neither do they, but....I dunno. She just told me she wrote her living will. The doctors heavily suggested it because "even with simple surgeries you never know". I was named the secondary proxy, after my dad. So if my father passes away too, well then I'm in charge of my mother's health decisions.

I really should move closer to them.